What you speak is what you create!

In our lives there are so many amazing and powerful things to our disposal, but we tend to be so wrapped up in our circumstances and habits, that we fail to use them on a daily basis. We sometimes need reminding of this fact. We all understand the power of our words.

Last week I was looking at You Tube video's on the power of words, especially Mararu Emoto's famous experiment with water crystals. In this experiment, he talked to one experiment with beautiful words, and to the other in harsh diminishing words. The outcome is astounding when you see how beautiful the crystals that was talked to in a loving way formed as opposed to the negative part of the experiment. There is many experiments which do more or less the same, like with rice and apples. This just makes us realise that our words are powerful, and that it is important to look at the words we think, first and utter or write after that.

What do you think about yourself at this moment? We understand through neuroscience, how powerful our thoughts are. More and more people are doing spiritual exercises to help them become calm, relaxed and to change the thinking habits that they have. We know that you can not build a house without a strong foundation. Your thoughts, and by that I also include your "self-talk", has a huge impact on your life in general. The Bible teaches us that just thinking something sinful, are already sinful. This just means that your thoughts are already actions. We have seen that many scientific studies have shown that athletes who just thought about an exercise, without really doing it, showed brain activities, much the same as when they actually did the exercises.

Another interesting concept is the idea of "Abracadabra", which is used my magicians. The magician and speaker Andrew Bennet tells in his Tedtalk, that this is actually an Aramaic word, pre-dating Hebrew, and it means "What I speak is what I create".

In the reality of everyday life, we become so entangled in our daily activities. These days we understand the importance of becoming silent, listening and regenerating our thoughts. De-cluttering of your life is important, in whatever way you do it. For me it is in writing, it just totally relaxes me, and it also helps me to understand the life I live a lot better. There is so many things going on around us with work, stress and kids, that we tend to forget, or we don't have time for many important habits, like changing your world.

One thing that I have learned is that what you believe in will ultimately become who you are. Somebody the other day said to me, when talking about finances and my business: "But why aren't you successful?" I was actually startled by the comment, yes, OK, I am not performing at an optimal level, but I believe that I am a successful person. But often in our lives, especially when confronted with situations where we are perceived to be unsuccessful, we tend to believe it. I on the other hand look at my "setbacks" and "obstacles" as just that. I do not know who it was that said this about Gary Kirsten, South African cricketer. He was at some stage in his career going through a huge slump, and there were lots of calls from the public to drop him from the team. And this person simply said as a reason why he should stay: "Talent is eternal, form is just temporary". The day after this, Gary Kirsten hit a century and went on to be one of South Africa's all time best batsmen. This is my philosophy as well, and when things get tough, I just see it as a slump, and not permanent, and I make plans every day to rectify this and to find and live out my talents.

You may mirror yourself in the statistics and in the way that people perceive you, but their ideas can only influence you if you let it. If you believe in your journey and your purpose and who you are strongly enough, you override what they think and perceive. What I do in this manner, when somebody confronts me, always take into account who they are, what they are living and believing themselves. What people think and say of you is important, but only to and extent. I read a lot on Facebook about people who say that you should not care about what other people think, this is not true. Or maybe to an extent, but there must be balance. You can not take on everything that people say or think about you as 100% truth, there might be truth in, but people are subjective in what they say. Having said that, this also evokes the idea in you how powerful words are. I have friends who have "scars" from when they were in Primary school about what a teacher or a friend said. That is why the Bible teaches us that we need to put a guard before our mouths, and we need to learn to also put a guard before our ears and hearts.

But I truly believe that our biggest enemy is not other people, but what we say to ourselves. Too often we are too harsh on ourselves, because we want to be successful and we want to be better than we was yesterday. But you also learn from relationship council-ling, that no relationship can ever grow or develop if there is only criticism. I remember this wonderful story about a sailor who because shipwrecked somewhere and swam to an island inhabited by a tribe. He was badly injured and one of the Headman's daughters helped him to get on his feet again. Then, he helped to teach their children to read and write and the Headman was so happy, that he offered him one of his daughters in marriage. They were beautiful, but he chose the one that looked after him, but she was the "ugliest" of all of the daughters, and everybody frowned upon his choice. After their marriage they moved to another island, and after about a year, this tribe rowed over to where their island for a ritual. On the beach was the most beautiful girl that any of them ever saw, waving at them. Then they saw that it was this daughter of the Headsman, and they asked the sailor what happened. He said: "All day long I keep on telling her how beautiful she is to me". The most amazing relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself, and although there may be cracks, remind yourself often how amazing, beautiful, successful and wonderful you are. The changes will be amazing, Abracadabra – What I speak is what I create.

Create in your mind who you want to be, and in the end it will be exactly what you have envisioned. People often say to me that this type of thinking is unrealistic and not tangible. I always tell them that it is actually more tangible that matter around you, because it is the basis of all things that we as people create. Think about the telephone, the light bulb and other modern inventions that is tangible, it all started within someone, in their heads.

I have never met Gary Kirsten, but I think in that time when he was in his slump, there were many mornings that he did not feel like going to practice. I can just imagine reading about your slump in the newspaper or hearing about it on a talk show. But what did he do, the same as all other successful people, he marched on. Cricket is one of the most challenging and stressful sports out there, and asks immense concentration. To be mentally strong means that you believe in yourself and your ability, and you strive and tell yourself that you are the best, even if you don't feel like it.

The world will always measure you in terms of targets and production. These are just indications of how far you have progressed in the eyes of the world. That is and should always be a portion of your reality, and not the whole truth. Take this 4 week challenge, and every morning, tell yourself the following:

"I am special, I am good, I am enough. I can create all my dreams and desires, I can, I will, I believe"

I believe this will change your life, whatever you choose to add to this, you are welcome.